First, refgarding verbuilding on previously natural lands. I think it is unconscionable in this day and age to build on natural land. There are very few exceptions to that. There are plenty of places that could be torn down and re-built. There is a whole lazy, entitled class of people these days. For example, when I pick up my son after school, I do drive because of pain issues, but I park my car nearby and take a short walk in to get him. When I emerge from the school and walk to our car, there is a line of monster SUV’s with one parent in them, sitting with their engines on, just sitting for much longer than it took me to park, walk in and out. Like it would be beneath their class to get out of their comfort zone. These are the kinds of things I see in California. There is alot of this kind of thing.

My Aries boy’s father is Cancer, the crab. Loves mother and home. Tough on the outside, soft underbelly that goes delicious with butter – just kidding! Runs sideways down the beach. Cancer a major water sign, can also be a wet blanket for my fire son. But he is a good influence in guiding and directing him in the right direction. Yeah, we get along. My son loves his mother. We emphasize routine and order – having places for things and he has certain responsibilities. We deal in consequences. First things first. The “have to’s” and the “want to’s.” The idea is that he will live the kind of life that he always wanted for himself.

I can relate, I am always striving for balance and only occasionally relaxing in that balance.
Thanks for such nice things you said. Have a very nice day.

There used to be a homeless man in downtown Los Angeles. He always greeted everone on the street, year after year, saying, “Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, good night.”

It is very sad to hear about the deer. I know. There was a atime in my youth when there was an incredible amount of Roadkill of wild animals. Now you don’t see so much – around here. It is an animal equivalent to a “silent spring.” We don’t even know what the world is supposed to look like because it has been manipulated for so long. Being where you are in the ‘hollers, you know the potential of wilderness and all of its beauty. It is strange to think how many people have only ever known a cemented environment. Humans need a certain amount of nature, trees around them to be healthy, imo.

Omg, it sounds like the potential for being related is great. I cannot tell you, but there were parts of your family story that ring bells for me. I wish i knew more. Well that is great, Kathy. We are in a small apartment right now, but like many, we imagine ourselves in a house, soon. If I have a nice place for guests, you will certainly be welcome. We live right outside of San Francisco.

Andy griffith is one of my all time favorite shows, especially episodes with Barney.

We will pay a price for this eventually! Cheers.

Your son has a mother that is peaceful and not fire sign!! Don’t know about your husband yet.

Someone did my chart long ago too. I not only have a fire sun sign in Aries, but fire in several other houses too. Moon sign Leo. I don’t even remember all the houses but there was so much fire leading the way in me that I don’t know how anyone could get along with me!!!

I am not well balanced!! (My poor children!!!) Grace? Did you do your son’s chart?

He WILL be an awesome man! Because you are an awesome mother!!

Thank you for the compliment of the beauty of Tennessee. (as if I had something to do with it.) I wish I had been to California so that I could genuinely return the compliment. But of the pictures I’ve seen,,,,it’s most lovely!

My second husband was from Fresno. I thought I might get to visit the state to meet his parents and siblings but the marriage was so short lived that I never made it out there! Maybe some day huh?

Tennessee has very many beautiful sites to see. West is more flat and has the new madrid fault line running through. YIKES!! They say that when that big earthquake hits it will flatten Memphis! (I’m afraid of earthquakes so I never set out for California out of FEAR of earthquakes as depicted on tv.) I know that’s probably sad!

East Tennessee has the Great Smokey Mountain chain. I’m in the middle more toward the west with rolling hills and hollows. I grew up in a hollow and here with our southern accents we call them hollers!! LOL

We aren’t like the people in the old “Deliverance’ movie as TV might depict all southernors. But….a movie I saw recently….(and I know you rent movies) …. was “Inglorious Bastards” Brad Pitt (from east Tennessee in this movie) with his accent and mannerisms and belief system is very much the Tennessee that I know!! Not very cultured or diplomatic!!! Many of us have grown out of or away from his character but I have soooo many memories of his character in my earlier days!! I know people here still today that could match his character in that movie!

Grace, you know what’s sad here to me? I live in a suburb inside the city limits. This past year, I’ve seen deer traveling through. That didn’t happen before. Deer had enough room to roam. They didn’t have to come here. But my city has become so overbuilt that it interferes with wildlife.

I saw a very tiny baby newborn on my own street inside the subdivision a few months back. And as I took my car out to the main highway, I encounted another along the side of the road that couldn’t have been over a week old. In my whole life I have never seen babies left on the roads alone like that. Maybe mother deer was near by and I didnt’ spot her? But that doesn’t matter. Mother would not have normally allowed her baby that close to the road.

We always knew out in the country that we had to share the roads with the deer. They posted “deer crossing” signs. But here within the city……that’s a new thing! I’m saddened by this. I think deer are beautiful creatures but I don’t want to see them in my own sub-division because that’s a bad sign for them. We are overbuilding!

I will try to have fun. You too.

That is what I deal with alot. It is hard on me, but i am learning.

“But don’t make him think that you are holding him back lest he turn on you to prove you wrong!!! ”

Thanks, I will heed that advice.
lately, I think that the fact I was somewhat of a juvenile delinquent is reminding me of what I remember from being a teenager. I remember the cool parents were the ones that no matter how much trouble we got into, the cool parent would listen to the kid and hug the kid and help them. It seems valuable knowledge now. I always swore that if I were a parent, I would listen to my kid, no matter how bad it is and love and accept and help him. I’ve got my work cut out with my boy. In my heart I know he will be an awesome man, at the end of all this.